My first step on my road to living my best life was getting help. You can’t do this by yourself. I called on my family, close friends, Life Coach, and Fitness Trainer to help me through this transformation.
A dear friend told me, "Romita, you gotta sit in the pain and feel it" at the time, I didn't realize what that meant. When something terrible happens to me, my first instinct is to reframe it to something positive and move on. I've been doing this for years. It's how I escaped the pain.
So I did just that.......I sat in my pain of failure and being a quitter coupled with all kinds of doubts and regrets running through my mind. I spent many days in bed and numbing my mind with shows on Netflix.
I think about what I could have done differently. My house was a significant stressor in my life. The custom home builder (David Weekley) was a nightmare to work with.
At work, I was just burned out. Should I have asked more questions about the role I was signing up for? What were their policies around Diversity & Inclusion? Why didn't I get everything in writing? I knew better.
I had always been a high performer at work, and for some reason I was failing. Everything I did to excel, just made it worse. I felt like a unicorn stuck in a box because I didn’t fit the mold. Anytime I tried to be my glittering self, I was shamed back into the box.
My Life Coach described my personality type as an “Innovative Escape Artist.” She gave me a different perspective. I was a bird hopping from tree to tree. Every tree was better than the last and the fruit sweeter. Imagine what I could do if I built the courage to spread my wings and fly fearlessly over the world and seethe view above.
A lost unicorn running on fumes with broken wings, I didn't even know where to start. My soul, guarded by a thick brick-like wall, created over the years, made me unable to feel.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. —Steve Jobs
On a mission to heal my mind, body, and soul, I had a new motivation to make a serious change in my life. Chiseling through the wall guarding my lifeless soul, my Life Coach helped me bring light in. My trainer patiently guided me on healing my malnutrition body. An amazing network of family and friends were ecstatically cheering me on every step of the way. Everyone was so generously gifting me nuggets of wisdom from their own experiences.
Upgrading my mindset and building emotional wealth is a lot of work. I showed up every day and did the work. I was determined to redesign my life on my own terms and fly again. Today, I'm still a work in progress and look forward to continue growing.
If you obey all the rules, you’ll miss all the fun." —Katharine Hepburn